Book Description: This inspirational parenting guide offers proactive and positive steps to raising respectful, engaged, and grateful children.
In an effort to raise children with a healthy view of themselves, parents often focus on self-esteem rather than self-respect. And author Jill Rigby says there’s a big difference. It’s the difference between self-centered and others-centered children, the difference between performance-driven and purpose-focused teenagers.
Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World examines three different styles of parenting—parent-centered, child-centered, and character-centered. Parent-centered parents are more concerned with their own agenda than their child’s best interest. Child-centered parents are more concerned with their child’s approval than their child’s well-being. Character-centered parents are more concerned with their child’s character than their child’s comfort. Drawing a distinction between performance and purpose, this book maintains that rather than focusing on what you want your child to do, you ask what you want your child to become. Finally, Rigby calls for parents to discipline (teach) their children rather than punish them.
With wisdom and insight, Jill Rigby shares age-appropriate ways to set boundaries with children without building walls of separation. Whether you’re parenting tots or teens, Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World offers valuable advice for cultivating a house of respect.
My Comments: As a mom for over 35 years, and a grandmother for over 12 years, and a teacher for over 21 years, I celebrate the content of this book and I couldn’t have said any of it any better myself. Children are being cheated. They need to be raised and coached with boundaries in order to develop a strong character of integrity. When I hear that the USA is number one is self-esteem, but very much lower than that in all other areas a huge red flag goes up. When I continually work with families with a victim mentality who seem to feel entitled, another huge red flag goes up. I work in a public school, but unfortunately, this scenario doesn’t seem much different in the Christian arena. Thinking in our country needs to change!
Yes, I know this all sounds great, but this book gives some practical ideas on how to actually do this. It is time to break the cycle. As Christians, character is at the heart of who we are and who we want our children to become. This book has many practical suggestions on how to do that. This is a Christian book, but I think the content would be helpful to anyone who desires raising children with character. I plan on sharing nuggets from this book with my students’ parents this year BUT…(here’s some exciting news!!!)
The publisher has said I could give a copy of this book away and am I ever excited! All I’m asking for is a comment below with one great parenting tip you could share with the readers of the Friendly Booknook by August 9. I will be using Random.org to choose the winner of the book, and I will contact the winner on August 10. Best of luck to you!
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